常见问题解答


常见问题解答 FAQS

什麼是戒賭者互助會?
What Is Gamblers Anonymous?

戒賭者互助會是由一群有賭博問題的男女共同組成的互助團體,目的是要解決他們自己和其他賭徒的賭博問題。
Gamblers Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who have joined together to do something about their own gambling problem and to help other compulsive gamblers do the same.

我對於參加戒賭者互助會的聚會應該感到緊張嗎?
Should I Feel Nervous About Going To A Gamblers Anonymous Meeting?

你不必對參加戒賭者互助會的聚會感到緊張或擔心,因為你會受每個會員的歡迎。多數人在參加第一次聚會後都表示出極大的安慰,他們意識到還有其他的人也在經受著類似的問題。
There is no need to feel nervous or apprehensive about attending a Gamblers Anonymous meeting where you will be welcomed by everyone. Most people express a huge relief after attending their first meeting and realising there are other people who have suffered similar experiences.

戒賭者互助會聚會的情形是怎樣的?
What Happens Inside A GA Meeting?

在戒賭者互助會的聚會上,你可以同曾經或正在處於你的處境的人交談,你可以期待得到支持、幫助和建議,並會被保密。聚會時所說的一切都不會被洩露出去。
At a GA meeting you can talk to people who have been or are in your position and you can expect to receive support, help, advice and confidentiality. What is said within the meeting stays within the meeting.

這是由希望戒賭的男女老少參加的友好的聚會。大家不會問你是誰,沒有專業人士或自以為做善事的人,沒有盤問。和宗教絕對沒有任何關聯。不收門票費。

A friendly meeting together of men and women, young and old who have a desire to stop gambling. No questions about who they are, no professionals or do-gooders. No cross-examinations. Absolutely no religious connections. No entrance fees.

如果你承認賭博失去控製而且希望戒賭,那麼你自動就成為互助會的一員!你不需提供個人信息,也不會被要求繳費。戒賭者互助會完全靠自願捐獻來支持 – 新會員第一次參加聚會無需捐獻。
If you admit you gamble out of control and that you want to stop then you are automatically a member! No personal details and no fees requested. GA is totally self-supporting from voluntary collections – nothing from the new member on their first night.

其中一個會員將作為當晚的主持人;他或她會邀請那些願意發言的人講自己賭博期間和戒賭後的生活。講話的人不會被打斷。
One of the members is the chairperson for the evening; he or she invites those who wish, to speak about their life while gambling and since stopping gambling. The speaker is not interrupted.

互助會的支柱是“戒賭12階段” – 戒掉賭博並過一個正常人生的簡單指南,會員可以隨意對此指南加以利用或理解。
The backbone is the “12 step programme”. A simple guide to living a normal life without gambling which can be used or interpreted in any way the member chooses.

“戒賭者互助會能夠幫助所有希望得到幫助的人” – 你試著參加一次聚會,就會知道是它怎樣的了。
“Gamblers Anonymous works for the man or woman who wants it to ” – try just one visit to find out for yourself.

聚會多長時間舉行一次?
How Often Are Meetings Held?

聚會每週一次在同一時間同一地點舉行,你只要出席就行。請記住,成為會員的唯一條件就是有要戒賭的願望。
Meetings are in the same place every week at the same time, simply turn up. Remember, the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop gambling.

什麼是賭癮?
What is compulsive gambling?

賭癮是一種漸進式的疾病,不能痊癒卻是可以製止的。
Compulsive gambling is an illness, progressive in its nature, which can never be cured, but can be arrested.

在參加戒賭者互助會之前,許多有賭癮的賭徒只認為他們是品行上軟弱,或只是“不好”而已。戒賭者互助會的信念是:有賭癮的賭徒是真的生了重病的人。但是只要他們願意盡力照著戒賭者互助會的簡單重建方法去做,這病是可以復原的。因這套方法已經成功地幫助數千名男女賭徒脫離賭博。
Before coming to Gamblers Anonymous, many compulsive gamblers thought of themselves as morally weak, or at times just plain ‘no good’. The Gamblers Anonymous concept is that compulsive gamblers are really very sick people who can recover if they will follow to the best of their ability a simple program that has proved successful for thousands of other men and women with a gambling or compulsive gambling problem.

有賭癮的賭徒想要戒賭,第一步該做什麼?
What is the first thing a compulsive gambler ought to do in order to stop gambling?

上癮的賭徒必需願意承認他(她)是陷入一種逐漸嚴重的疾病中,並且一定要有戒賭的決心。從我們的經驗中知道,戒賭者互助會的複建方法對於真正下決心要戒賭的人一定能成功。反之,對那些不願意麵對現實,不願承認自己有病的賭徒是永遠無效的。
The compulsive gambler needs to be willing to accept the fact that he or she is in the grip of a progressive illness and has a desire to get well. Our experience has shown that the Gamblers Anonymous program will always work for any person who has a desire to stop gambling. However, it will never work for the person who will not face squarely the facts about this illness.

如何知道你是個上癮的賭徒?
How can you tell whether you are a compulsive gambler?

只有你能做這決定。多數賭徒,當他們願意承認被賭博害慘時,就來參加戒賭者互助會。在戒賭者互助會中,一個上癮的賭徒是指一個人因為賭博而造成他(她)的生活在任何一方面不斷地發生問題,而且問題越來越嚴重。

Only you can make that decision. Most people turn to Gamblers Anonymous when they become willing to admit that gambling has defeated them. Also in Gamblers Anonymous, a compulsive gambler is described as a person whose gambling has caused growing and continuing problems in any department of his or her life.

許多戒賭者互助會會員在參加互助會之前都有過慘痛的經歷。有些人面對自己情況逐漸一點一點地惡化,最後還是承認自己失敗。
Many Gamblers Anonymous members went through terrifying experiences before they were ready to accept help. Others were faced with a slow, subtle deterioration which finally brought them to the point of admitting defeat.

戒賭者互助會如何幫助人戒賭?
How does someone stop gambling through the Gamblers Anonymous Program?

一個人能戒賭是經過他(她)自己個性上不斷地更新突破改變。只要有信心,並照著戒賭者互助會所持的基本信念 – 戒賭12 階段和共同理念去做,一定能成功戒賭。
One does this through bringing about a progressive character change within oneself. This can be accomplished by having faith in — and following — the basic concepts of the Gamblers Anonymous 12 Steps Recovery and Unity Programs.

要有上述的信心和共識需要些時間,沒有捷徑的。想要從如此迷惑、狡詐、讓人無法自拔的賭癮中走出來時需要認真努力的。誠實、敞開、願意是成功戒賭的秘訣。
There are no short cuts in gaining this faith and understanding. To recover from one of the most baffling, insidious, compulsive addictions will require diligent effort. HONESTY, OPENMINDEDNESS, and WILLINGNESS are the key words in our recovery.

知道為什麼去賭博的原因重要嗎?
Is knowing why we gambled important?

也許,但是到目前為止,許多戒賭者互助會會員不需要知道賭博的原因就能戒除賭博。
Perhaps, however insofar as stopping gambling, many Gamblers Anonymous members have abstained from gambling without the knowledge of why they gambled.

上癮的賭徒的一般特徵是什麼?
What are some characteristics of a person who is a compulsive gambler?

  1. 不能夠也不願意麵對現實。所以逃避到賭博的幻想世界裡。                         INABILITY AND UNWILLINGNESS TO ACCEPT REALITY. Hence the escape into the dream world of gambling.
  2. 情緒上沒有安全感。一個上癮的賭徒只有當他(她)在賭博時才覺得情緒上較舒服。常聽到戒賭者互助會會員說:“當我賭博時我才覺得自己有歸屬感,有安全感,也覺得舒服。我不再對自己有更多的要求。我知道我在毀滅自己,但同時我又覺得有相當的安全感。”
    EMOTIONAL INSECURITY. A compulsive gambler finds he or she is emotionally comfortable only when “in action”. It is not uncommon to hear a Gamblers Anonymous member say: “The only time I felt like I belonged was when I was gambling. Then I felt secure and comfortable. No great demands were made upon me. I knew I was destroying myself, yet at the same time, I had a certain sense of security”.
  3. 不成熟。上癮賭徒的一個共同特徵就是有“不花太大力氣就能得到人生所有好處”的慾望。許多戒賭者互助會會員接受他們不願意成長的事實。下意識裡,他們以為只要在輪盤上下個賭注,或翻張牌,就能避免成熟人所應付的責任。所以這樣逃避責任的掙扎終於導致被賭博所轄制。上癮的賭徒的內心有想成為“名人”的強烈慾望,有需要成為“有權勢”的感覺。上癮的賭徒會願意做任何事來維持他(她)要別人看到的形象。(通常會不和別人來往)。還有一套理論說上癮的賭徒潛意識裡用輸錢來懲罰自己。這理論有許多例子可證明。
    IMMATURITY. A desire to have all the good things in life without any great effort on their part seems the common character pattern of problem gamblers. Many Gamblers Anonymous members accept the fact that they were unwilling to grow up. Subconsciously they felt they could avoid mature responsibility by wagering on the spin of a wheel or the turn of a card, and so the struggle to escape responsibility finally became a subconscious obsession. Also, a compulsive gambler seems to have a strong inner urge to be a ‘big shot’ and needs to have a feeling of being all powerful. The compulsive gambler is willing to do anything (often of an antisocial nature) to maintain the image he or she wants others to see. Then too, there is a theory that compulsive gamblers subconsciously want to lose to punish themselves. There is much evidence to support this theory.

上癮的賭徒的幻想世界是什麼?
What is the dream world of the compulsive gambler?

這是上癮賭徒的另一個共同特徵。他們花很多時間幻想著一旦贏了大錢,他們就能享有許多美好的事。他們通常以為自己是仁慈又迷人的。他們夢想能給家人朋友新車,貂皮大衣等奢侈品。上癮賭徒為自己編織一幅美麗的圖畫:靠著他們自以為是的方法去賭博,大贏一筆後就能舒服快樂地過日子。只等那機運到了大贏一把,就美夢成真:傭人、洋房、名牌衣服、遊艇、好友、環遊世界…什麼都有了。
This is another common characteristic of compulsive gamblers. A lot of time is spent creating images of the great and wonderful things they are going to do as soon as they make the big win. They often see themselves as quite philanthropic and charming people. They may dream of providing families and friends with new cars, mink coats, and other luxuries. Compulsive gamblers picture themselves leading a pleasant gracious life, made possible by the huge sums of money they will accrue from their ‘system’. Servants, penthouses, nice clothes, charming friends, yachts, and world tours are a few of the wonderful things that are just around the corner after a big win is finally made.

可憐的是,上癮的賭徒從來沒有一次贏夠錢,甚至來實現自己最小的夢想。當他們贏錢時,總想可以再贏得更多。當他們輸錢時,又絕望失控地只想撈本。所以當他們因賭博而陷入無底的淒慘中時,他們的幻想世界也崩潰了。可悲的是,上癮的賭徒會掙扎地回來,繼續做那不可能的夢,當然也陷入更慘痛的不幸中。沒人能說服上癮的賭徒他們的偉大計劃永遠不會實現。他們相信他們一定會成功的。他們無法忍受沒有夢想世界的生活。
Pathetically, however, there never seems to be a big enough winning to make even the smallest dream come true. When compulsive gamblers succeed, they gamble to dream still greater dreams. When failing, they gamble in reckless desperation and the depths of their misery are fathomless as their dream world comes crashing down. Sadly, they will struggle back, dream more dreams, and of course suffer more misery. No one can convince them that their great schemes will not someday come true. They believe they will, for without this dream world, life for them would not be tolerable.

賭癮基本上是財務上發生問題嗎?
Isn’t compulsive gambling basically a financial problem?

不,賭癮是情緒上的問題。一個處於賭博病況中的人會造成許多無法解決的問題。當然,他們是有財務上的問題。但他們也可能正面臨婚姻、事業、法律上的問題。上癮的賭徒發覺他們失去了朋友,親戚也拒絕他們。在所有的問題中,其實財務問題是最容易解決的。當上癮的賭徒來參加戒賭者互助會而不再賭博後,很快地,因為不再有賭博造成的漏洞,收入通常可漸漸增加。財務上的壓力開始減輕。戒賭者互助會會員發現恢復財務狀況的最好方法是努力工作來還債。在互助會中向人借錢,或借錢給人對戒賭者反而是有害的,應被制止。
No, compulsive gambling is an emotional problem. A person in the grip of this illness creates mountains of apparently insolvable problems. Of course, financial problems are created, but they also find themselves facing marital, employment, or legal problems. Compulsive gamblers find friends have been lost and relatives have rejected them. Of the many serious difficulties created, the financial problems seem the easiest to solve. When a compulsive gambler enters Gamblers Anonymous and quits gambling, income is usually increased and there is no longer the financial drain that was caused by gambling, and very shortly, the financial pressures begin to be relieved. Gamblers Anonymous members have found that the best road to financial recovery is through hard work and repayment of our debts. Bankruptcy, borrowing and/or lending of money (bail outs) in Gamblers Anonymous is detrimental to our recovery and should not take place.

戒賭者所面對的最苦難也最花時間的問題就是自己個性上的改變。許多戒賭者互助會會員視此為最大的挑戰。也是每個人馬上該做的,一生都要努力的。The most difficult and time consuming problem with which they will be faced is that of bringing about a character change within themselves. Most Gamblers Anonymous members look upon this as their greatest challenge, which should be worked on immediately and continued throughout their lives.

為何不能靠著意志力來戒賭?
Why can’t a compulsive gambler simply use willpower to stop gambling?

我們相信大多數人,如果他夠誠實的話,會承認他們缺乏能力去解決某些問題。就賭博而言,我們知道許多賭徒可以有一段時間不去賭博。但是一旦失去警覺,又有機會,他們又會不計後果地賭博。只藉由意志力來抵擋賭博,勝不過那微不足道的下注理由。我們發現意志力和自知並不能幫助賭徒思想上的盲點。但是藉著互助會所提出的“屬靈原則”相較下更能幫助賭徒解決問題。我們覺得相信一個更大的超自然能力是必需的,能幫助我們維持不去賭博的決心。
We believe that most people, if they are honest, will recognize their lack of power to solve certain problems. When it comes to gambling, we have known many problem gamblers who could abstain for long stretches, but caught off guard and under the right set of circumstances, they started gambling without thought of the consequences. The defenses they relied upon, through will power alone, gave way before some trivial reason for placing a bet. We have found that will power and self-knowledge will not help in those mental blank spots, but adherence to spiritual principles seem to solve our problems. Most of us feel that a belief in a Power greater than ourselves is necessary in order for us to sustain a desire to refrain from gambling.

上癮的賭徒能再正常的賭博嗎?
Can a compulsive gambler ever gamble normally again?

不。對賭徒來說第一個賭注,就像是給酗酒人的第一小杯酒。早晚他(她)會再落入同樣墮落的光景中。
No. The first bet to a problem gambler is like the first drink to an alcoholic. Sooner or later he or she falls back into the same old destructive pattern.

當一個人跨越那無形的界限,進入那不負責任又無法控制的賭博時,他(她)已經永遠不能再控制賭博了。一些戒賭者互助會會員在戒賭幾個月後 ,又去小賭試試運氣,總是得到相同悲慘的結果 – 無可避免地賭癮又回來了。

Once a person has crossed the invisible line into irresponsible uncontrolled gambling he or she never seems to regain control. After abstaining a few months some of our members have tried some small bet experimentation, always with disastrous results. The old obsession inevitably returned.

戒賭者互助會的經驗指出我們能做的選擇:去賭,冒著繼續墮落的危險;或是不去賭,發展出一個更好的生活方式。
Our Gamblers Anonymous experience seems to point to these alternatives: to gamble, risking progressive deterioration or not to gamble, and develop a better way of life. 

難道說我甚至連小小幾分錢的賭博遊戲或是世界賭杯賭輸贏都不能玩嗎?Does this mean I can’t even participate in a little penny  game or a pool wager?

確實如此。一定要有個防線,戒賭者互助會會員要知道一定不能下第一個賭注,哪怕只是賭一杯咖啡。包括网上赌博、股票、期貨、期權、買/玩樂透彩券、摸彩券、丟銅板、參加辦公室同事的球賽賭彩等。
It means exactly that. A stand has to be made somewhere and Gamblers Anonymous members have found the first bet is the one to avoid, even though it may be as little as matching for a cup of coffee. This includes Internet gambling, the stock market, commodities, options, buying or playing lottery tickets, raffle tickets, flipping a coin or entering the office sport pool.

我只是周期性地去賭博玩樂一下,我需要參加戒賭者互助會嗎?
I only go on gambling binges periodically.  Do I need Gamblers Anonymous?

是的。互助會中的上癮賭徒告訴我們,雖然他們賭博玩樂是周期性的,但是在周期間有的卻是沒建設性的思想。在這週期間的一般症狀是緊張、易怒、沮喪、猶豫不定,人際關係繼續被破壞。這些人在戒賭者互助會的重建計劃中, 找到如何除去他們個性上的弱點,和引導他們重建道德生活的方法。
Yes. Compulsive gamblers who have joined Gamblers Anonymous tell us that, though their gambling binges were periodic, the intervals between were not periods of constructive thinking. Symptomatic of these periods were nervousness, irritability, frustration, indecision and a continued breakdown in personal relationships. These same people have often found the Gamblers Anonymous program the answer to the elimination of character defects and a guide to moral progress in their lives.

賭博的定義 Definition of Gambling

賭博,對上癮的賭徒定義如下:GAMBLING, for the compulsive gambler is defined as follows:

任何下賭注或打賭,不論是為自己或別人,不論是為金錢與否,也不論是多小或微不足道,只要結果是不確定的,或要靠運氣或“技巧”決定,都是賭博。Any betting or wagering, for self or others, whether for money or not, no matter how slight or insignificant, where the outcome is uncertain or depends upon chance or ‘skill’ constitutes gambling.

 

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